Live, feel and simply try to be yourself ...

We all struggle from time to time.

As a licensed clinical psychologist I see my role as providing you with a safe, nonjudgmental and caring environment - a place where you can explore your struggles and better understand the obstacles that may be getting in the way of you achieving your goals.

 

My approach is supportive, collaborative and validating. I see you as an active participant in your therapy - I come with experience and expertise but believe that you are the expert on your life.

 

My role is to help empower you to build on your strengths so that you can better cope with the challenges you may be facing in your life.

Individuals and couples come to see me for many reasons:

  • They have anxiety or depression

  • They don’t feel good about themselves

  • They need help managing a difficult time in their life.

  • They might be tired of being alone, of dating the wrong people, or of being in dysfunctional relationships.

  • They want to build a more intimate, trusting relationship with their partner.

  • They have unresolved childhood problems that they want to work through.

  • They’ve experienced some form of trauma they wish to process.

  • They turn to unhealthy ways of coping such as porn, drugs or alcohol.

  • They have issues in their sex life.

Please see here for a more detailed list of psychology services available or here if you wish to know more about me.

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I work with older adolescents and adults in my practice. My specialty areas include depression, identity issues, women's issues, LGBTQ issues, relationship problems, anxiety, stress management and life transitions, trauma and PTSD. I am sensitive to cultural issues and appreciate the socio-political forces that impact our lives.

Sometimes we need support and guidance to help us manage distress, achieve greater clarity, free up energy, build better relationships and develop a healthier sense of ourselves. Most of us find it difficult, or don’t want to discuss personal problems, even with those closest to us.

I’d like to help you feel better about your life, your relationships and, most importantly, yourself.

I’m a skilled, experienced and empathic psychologist who offers a supportive and non-judgmental environment for counseling. I provide short solution focused or medium to long term therapy for adults, depending on your individual needs. I see people for a range of issues including depression, anxiety, stress, relationships and trauma.

I bring to my work a background of solid training as well as diverse work and life experiences. I use constructive, evidence-based strategies that are aimed to maximize your strengths, giving you the opportunity to increase self-confidence, resilience and well-being.

 
 

Anxiety

Anxiety can leave us feeling overwhelmed and unable to function as we normally would.

Stress is a normal response to pressure and gives us energy to meet challenges in everyday life. However, stress that lasts a long time or is too overwhelming, can affect our ability to cope and we can feel anxious, tense, depressed and burnt out. Sometimes, people might use alcohol, drugs or sex to try to manage uncomfortable feelings.

Common symptoms or signs of anxiety and stress

  • Obsessive thinking

  • Worrying about things continuously

  • Burn out, exhaustion, break-down

  • Feeling restless or agitated

  • Problems concentrating

  • Dry mouth, racing heart

  • Feeling like there’s a lump in your throat, difficulty swallowing

  • Nervous energy, difficulty winding down

  • Feeling impatient

  • Scared without apparent reason

  • Panic attacks

  • Avoiding things

  • Trouble sleeping

  • Dizziness or light headidness

Anxiety

Anxiety can leave us feeling overwhelmed and unable to function as we normally would.

Stress is a normal response to pressure and gives us energy to meet challenges in everyday life. However, stress that lasts a long time or is too overwhelming, can affect our ability to cope and we can feel anxious, tense, depressed and burnt out. Sometimes, people might use alcohol, drugs or sex to try to manage uncomfortable feelings.

Common symptoms or signs of anxiety and stress

  • Obsessive thinking

  • Worrying about things continuously

  • Burn out, exhaustion, break-down

  • Feeling restless or agitated

  • Problems concentrating

  • Dry mouth, racing heart

  • Feeling like there’s a lump in your throat, difficulty swallowing

  • Nervous energy, difficulty winding down

  • Feeling impatient

  • Scared without apparent reason

  • Panic attacks

  • Avoiding things

  • Trouble sleeping

  • Dizziness or light headidness

 

Depression

We can all feel a bit down at times but when it lasts too long, or goes beyond this, into feeling intensely sad, or you have a sense of hopelessness then talking to a psychologist might help.

You might find it hard to keep up with your normal routine and you notice that things are starting to fall behind. You might find that you don’t care or you feel guilty about not performing as you normally would.

Sometimes it’s pretty clear why we’re feeling depressed or down but other times we can’t place how we went from feeling good about things to feeling low and hopeless about the future.

I can try to help you sort out the noise, alleviate your symptoms of depression, address any concerns and put in place useful skills and coping strategies aimed to maintain good emotional health.

Symptoms and signs of depression:

  • Feeling unmotivated, lacking energy

  • Crying or feeling sad

  • Suicidal thoughts

  • Not enjoying things as much as you used to

  • Not feeling good about the future

  • Feeling irritable, tired

  • Not feeling good about yourself

  • Change in sleeping or eating habits

  • Using alcohol, drugs, sex or porn to numb feelings

Depression, anxiety and stress often co-exist with some experts suggesting that they’re part of the same problem.

Relationships

Relationships can be deeply satisfying and can also be a great place for healing and personal growth.

There is a universal tendency for people to want to bond with others – romantically, with family and with friends. That’s why most people are driven to build close, secure and trusting relationships throughout their lives.

However unhealthy relationships or being single for a long time can be a source of stress, anxiety and depression and sometimes it’s difficult to know which is contributing to which. Talking to a psychologist may help you understand what’s going on and how to deal with things in a healthy way.

Common issues in relationships and how counseling can help

  • Understanding and managing complex relationship dynamics at home and work

  • Building better relationships with your partner, step-children, in-laws, family, colleagues

  • Working out whether to stay in a relationship or leave

  • Learning to speak up for yourself

  • Better communication

  • Liking yourself, knowing your worth

  • Sexual and emotional intimacy issues

  • Internet porn

  • Coping with break-ups

  • Forming new and healthy relationships

If you would like to find out more about my counseling services, contact me by phone or email.

 

© 2017 by Virginia A. Reid, Ph.D.